Mae, my "foster grand-dog" is staying with me for 3 years. She is a docile, sweet St. Bernard I am taking care of for one of my sons while he and his family are living far away while serving in the Marines. After my recent move, however, I have been struggling with fear that has tarnished the previous enjoyment I had with Mae. Moving to a smaller home with no fence, Mae now must be leashed to go outside to "do business" or go on walks. No problem, except when she sees wild turkeys, cats, other dogs, or humans. She is so "happy" to see them she takes off, and I am left trying to keep up, or, in several cases, injured from being caught off guard. She is a big dog- a bit over 100 pounds. I have tried different leashes, including a "gentle leader" but after the last episode of her breaking loose (I let go of the leash after it almost took my finger off!) to "greet" a neighbor walking her small dog, I realized that fear had gotten the best of me. I no longer want to take her out, and while one of my sons was home for spring break, I was conveniently "busy" and had him take her out each time. And today that son has returned to college. Time to face the fear.
In my practice, fear is a common concern. Fear of the unknown, fear of change, fear of others' reactions, fear of flying, fear of dying- we all have fears. However, if left unchecked, fear can begin to control us, blocking us from making decisions, enjoying life, and being authentic. Facing fear- doing the very things that scare us- is one way to diminish the fear. "You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do." Eleanor Roosevelt.
I think I'll go take Mae for a walk.
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Mae. Ready for a walk?